white vegans be like “honey is unethical because the bees worked so hard on it that’s why I like the completely ethical alternative of sugar harvested by underpaid and abused fieldworkers”
okay. i appreciate that you came to me and asked me that.
first off? your apologies have kind of sucked. this isn’t just about what you did wrong, it’s about what you’re showing your followers about what is and isn’t okay. from your posts and your apologies all i have seen is people supporting you. oh, you’re only being attacked bc you’re straight. oh, those gross lgbt, this is why they’re so annoying!
so the first thing you do? you tell them to knock it the fuck off. because coming from us? it means nothing. it has to come from you. you have to say it. queer people, neuroatypical people, disabled people - we all feel unsafe in this fandom and you saying shit like that just continues to say it’s okay.
moving on: everything about that post was queerphobic. which includes transphobia, homophobia, biphobia, acephobia, arophobia, etc. you need to stop. i have never in my life seen someone either make an oc queer or headcanon an existing character as queer because they want to make them exciting. it is solely for the purpose of representation and solidarity.
for example: i headcanon solas as agender. solas as a character means a great deal to me, and i am agender, and i like sharing that with him. it pains me to think in the game that he can’t share whatever romance he has with a male elf, either. meaning gay male elves? can’t be with another elf. as a dalish that could be incredibly important to them.
example 2: i am not a trans man, but i know many of them and i like to headcanon someone like dorian as a trans man because i know trans men are in the same boat i am. it is a way of saying hey! you exist! high five! here is an awesome character that is just like you!
you have no right to shit on these things
do not under any circumstances call cole child-like. do not call him your sweet baby boy. do NOT say this shit. please understand i am not saying ‘do not be protective of cole’ i am saying ‘do not belittle him’. cole is very much a metaphor for mentally ill people. there are people who suffer from violent outbreaks and this doesn’t make them broken or wrong or evil or in need of an overbearing parent. and yes i am aware that gaider called him ‘child-like’ but let me explain to you a thing:
just because a fucking developer said it doesn’t mean it’s not ableist
gaider has been biphobic and sexist and ableist himself do not act like his word is god. it’s not. be better.
wanting to love and protect cole is beautiful. please do this. but do it in a way that supports his agency. talk about how you want him to start asking questions. about how you want him to stand up for himself. to yell that he exists and he DESERVES to exist.
also: i never want to see you use the word queer again. never. you are cishet and coming from you that is a slur. take it out of your vocabulary and use ‘mogai’ instead (it means margainalized orientations, gender alignments, and intersex)
you were wrong. you were oppressive. at this point? i honestly do not think you are sorry in the slightest. i think you’re scared for your reputation and i think you’re scrambling to try and get people to like you again. i could be wrong. but that’s up to you to prove to me. it’s no skin off my nose if you don’t change, but you better believe i’ll be on your ass if you say something shitty like this again
you have a lot of queer friends and followers and you completely shat on them tonight and then decided to make it about your hurt feelings.
when you say ‘special snowflake’ to a queer person, you are making them relive bullying. i guarantee you we have all heard that before, and mostly from people close to us. because we’re not allowed to feel special. we’re not supposed to scream I’M ASEXUAL from the rooftops. people like you will tell us that we’re the problem. that we’re making it difficult for people to accept us.
people like you tell us to be quiet so everything can stay nice and cishetnormative. where you look around and see hundreds of people you can relate to, and we look around and get a handful, and we’re lucky if they aren’t harmful stereotypes.
i am posting this on my blog and i’m tagging you in it rather than sending this privately because i want to see you reblog it. because i am calling you out on everything and i’m being as nice as i can and we’ll see how it goes.
INFMETRY star projector.
I really genuinely want this.
Oh, this is cool, but I bet it’s one of those insanely expensive things I’ll never be able to have in a million years.
Some assembly required, but it looks fun to assemble. AND THOSE RESULTS HOLY CRAP
Yep, added to my wishlist, for sure!
$22?!? I know what I want for Christmas this year…
smh i can’t believe people think bill gates earned all of his money by ~the sweat of his brow~. the going price of labor is like $20/hr. Bill Gates is worth $81.3 billion. That would mean Bill Gates has been working non-stop for the past 464,041 years for a total of 4,065,000,000 hours of labor. ａｌｌ ｇｌｏｒｙ ａｎｄ ｈｏｎｏｒ ｔｏ ｅｔｅｒｎａｌ ｌａｂｏｒｅｒ ｂｉｌｌ ｇａｔｅｓ
This perfectly summarizes why I love the Simpsons and hate Family Guy.
|girl:||babe come over|
|boy:||I can't I'm having a threesome with an older couple|
|girl:||my parents aren't home|